For the past days of wearing the purple bracelet my eyes have been opened to the true nature & purpose of sarcasm, mean comments, and complaining. Generally, I have seen little problem in these, but eventually there are moments that show the nature of such things.
Those moments where someone is hurt (inadvertently) or when people are talked about behind their back and you have influenced how others view those same people. Through the bracelet I have been seeing more clearly how sarcasm hurts people. It has no ultimate use. Uplifts nothing, but rather brings everyone (particularly the sarcastic commenter) down to a lower point. It is in the same park as slander, selfishness, and worthlessness.
What is its point? What is the reason for it? Perhaps it is a pleasure to be so negative, but that is literally all it is: negativity. This negativity does not build anyone up—in fact, it takes the place of so much more that can be useful in society.Likewise, complaining is truly useless.
Are you going to make anything better by whining about it? The best thing to do is to request a change, because most people don’t want to hear you complain. In fact, the Bible tells us not to complain or grumble (Philippians 2:14). If you want something changed, complaining is not the way accomplish it. Through action and understanding and patience are things changed.
In these days I have recognized something in particular about myself. All my sarcasm, mock-complaints, real complaints, and general meanness, serve to make me into a bad person. We become the things we say and do, and though I don’t ever mean the anything I say maliciously, it is slowly changing my heart to be more cynical, cruel, annoying, etc. I see this and I mourn, because I don’t like the fact that I need to change. But I know I need to find positive purpose & stop.
Ultimately it comes down to this – Is what you’re saying and doing reflective of your heart? If not, then you need to change your words and actions. Your purpose must be to reflect your good heart. Because if you don’t, your heart will conform. Or, is your heart bad and you know it, but you are doing good actions? Then your heart will change. There are a myriad of spiritual lessons here. Think about what you say and do. Does it serve a purpose?
Most importantly, when you are doing or saying something, ask yourself if it is something that you would be comfortable with in God’s own throne room. If not, you need to change it. The way to do it is this: do all you can, but let Christ fight the battles for you. If you know you can’t conquer something, then whenever it tempts you, simply pray, “Christ, I give this battle to you. I can’t win.” This is my strategy. I allow God to conquer these things in me.
Above all, we are never alone.
Submitted by Stephen Macomber